Friday, January 23, 2009

Sixty Years Together....

It is after a long gap that I am posting again. Weakness due to age is troubling me these days. Today I am remembering about our wedding day which was on 24th January 60 years back. The whole event comes as a flashback in my mind...

In those days, marriages were conducted during the teenage. Our marriage was also like that. I was on sixteen and my husband was on nineteen. It was arranged by elders in the family and we saw each other only in the mandap during the marriage ceremony. Then we began to love each other. Of course it was a feeling from within and not showing off like these days what people do.

Ours was a family of seven; my in-laws, two brothers-in law and a sister-in-law. My husband was the eldest, so I had added responsibilities. First one year I had some difficulties to adjust to the new environment. I loved everyone as my own, in spite of resistance from younger ones in the family. In an year's time they also started liking me.

When I look back the 60 years.... We have three children, two daughters and a son. All are well settled and living happily. We are satisfied that we have brought them up with values that we believe are good. Daughters are liked by their husband's families. Son is also settled in Mumbai and his wife is like my own daughter. They take care of all our needs.. over and above the love that binds the family. All our grandchildren are also living happily. Four of them have settled with their own family. Altogether we have four cute great grandchildren. Their childish conversation through phone takes us to an entirely different world. Overall our family tree has now 22 members.

I feel, we are reaching the evening of our life. We are quite satisfied with what we have achieved as a couple. Have taken care of in-laws till the last day of their life. Gave love to everyone in the family, even if at times we felt that we didn't get what we gave. Then as a strong believer in 'bhagavat gita', I get happiness in doing things what I believe is right and not expecting anything in return.

Now for time-pass, I am writing stories and novels in our konkani language. My husband and everyone in the family encourages me in that. Two months back when I was felicitated (along with my husband) by our community, in front of a big gathering, I could see tears of happiness in my husband's eyes.

On this day, the 60th anniversary day of our wedding, I pray god to take care of all in my family tree and give them happiness... also dreaming for a world where everyone is happy and contented with no greed and enmity...

Now I pray god to consider "ladies first" when he decides to take us with him...

6 comments:

Sum Raj said...

U made me too have tears ammumma out of happiness and I wish all ur dreams and the things u have mentioned on this post comes true. We are all very happy in life and thats only becasue we are truly blessed with u all people around us. Wish u and abu a very happy 60th wedding anniversary... Lov u

Jaishree Iyer said...

My Hearty congratulations on your 60th wedding anniversary. Nice to read your post. “I get happiness in doing things what I believe is right and not expecting anything in return & I loved everyone as my own.”Really I loved those words and I am inspired. As Suma said I too wish all ur dreams on this post comes true. Need your Blessings. Once again Hearty Congratulation !!!! Cheers!!!

Deepthi Shankar said...

wow thatz is soo well written. hearty congrats to you & your husband. wishing you both many more years of togetherness

Beyond Curries said...

Happy 60th anniversary to both of you. You are truly an inspiration.

Nanditha Prabhu said...

enjoyed reading ur post.... wanted to comment in here earlier but whenever i typed and something my internet access would break....

we r truly blessed to be ur grand kids....
your life has been a good example for us......the many things you said ... thro stories and the many things you conveyed with your silent gestures will always be remembered ....

we will try to pass on the good values you taught us to our kids ...
i pray to god for ur and abu's good health ... always keep up ur good spirit and continue to inspire us with ur stories and ur unconditional love.....
yours chakki

Dr Sudha Kilikar said...

Amumma you have written really inspiring words, we are blessed to be your grand children......love from all of us.